Code of Conduct

1. PRE-PARTY STRUCTURE

a. Onboarding

  • All ticket-holders must be vetted before coming. Get vetted here.

  • Plus-one’s who have not been vetted will be denied entry without a refund.

  • Everyone must read and agree to the Code of Conduct before attending.

b. Boundary-setting

  • Before attending, take some time to reflect on your personal boundaries, desires, and limits.

  • If you're attending with a partner or within a dynamic, have a conversation beforehand to align expectations, comfort levels, and emotional needs.

  • Your boundaries are yours to maintain. They are flexible, reversible, and may shift in the moment — that’s completely okay. We encourage you to check in with yourself often, speak up when something doesn’t feel right, and respect others when they do the same.

  • If you do not feel comfortable declining anyone, firmly upholding your own boundaries, or directly saying no — this party is not for you. This behavior puts you and our members at risk of serious harm.

  • We believe that clear, honest communication before play leads to safer and more fulfilling experiences for everyone involved!

c. Confidentiality

  • Please do not talk about details that reveal anyone’s identity from the party outside the space, unless it's with your partner for safety and transparency.

  • Sharing our party website and IG with trusted friends is encouraged.

  • No photography or video recording is allowed at any time inside the venue. Only exception is for selfies in the single-stall bathroom.

d. Sexual Health and Testing Responsibility

  • Everyone is responsible for their own sexual health, including regular STI testing, communicating boundaries, and disclosing relevant information to partners before engaging in play.

  • We do not require proof of recent STI testing because we do not want to create a false sense of safety. A negative test does not guarantee risk-free sex.

  • Instead, we focus on education, responsibility, and open communication.

    • If you are having an active outbreak or feel unwell in any way, please stay home.

    • We encourage honest, shame-free conversations with your partners about STI status, risk, and comfort levels.

    • We provide condoms and safer sex supplies in every room. Please use them thoughtfully.

  • We believe that de-stigmatizing STIs helps keep everyone safer. You’re encouraged to ask questions and speak up.

  • Consent includes disclosure. If you need help navigating disclosure conversations, we’re happy to share community resources.

  • Do not share anyone else’s STI status without their explicit consent. This is a serious violation of privacy and trust.

2. CONSENT DURING THE PARTY

a. Consent Culture Orientation

  • At the start of every party, we will gather all guests for a short speech covering:

    • Introductions with your hosts and their mission.

    • The 5 pillars of consent (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific — FRIES).

    • Best practices for handling rejection.

    • House safeword and what to do when you hear it.

    • Who the consent monitors/kink liaisons are that night.

    • Overview of rooms and amenities.

b. House safeword

  • Our house safeword is: PINEAPPLE

  • Saying this word (or hearing it) means all activity must immediately stop.

  • Anyone can use it — not just the person in the scene.

  • Can be used in any and all situations where you or another person experiences uneasiness, regardless of the perceived severity.

  • Please keep this in mind in case a flight/fight/freeze response is triggered. We all know what to do when we hear “PINEAPPLE” — stop, and regroup after if needed.

c. Kink Play Rules

  • All scenes involving pain, restraint, degradation, or psychological intensity must be:

    • Negotiated beforehand, ideally with boundaries written down/recorded.

    • Supervised or spot-checked by a designated kink-aware host or consent monitor.

    • Verbal check-ins every so often during the scene, and appropriate aftercare.

3. POST-PARTY SUPPORT

a. Reporting Pathways

  • People can report issues confidentially via:

    • Our post-party feedback form (anonymous option)

    • In-person to a host, consent monitor, or security guard at the party

    • Text/DM host afterwards

b. Harm Response Promise

  • Any and all reports will be taken seriously, with timely follow-up and privacy protection.

  • We commit to not retaliating against anyone for reporting harm.

  • Accused individuals will not be removed without review, but may be asked to pause attendance while we investigate.

4. ACCOUNTABILITY PROCESS

a. Initial Response

  • All parties involved will be offered a support call or debrief.

  • Hosts will collect perspectives in private, with the goal of understanding harm—not determining guilt.

b. Review & Resolution

  • A resolution may include:

    • Adjusting our own safety procedures

    • Temporary break from events

    • Formal apology and reflection plan

    • Permanent removal for serious or repeated harm

c. Restorative Possibilities

  • If all parties consent, we may facilitate a mediated process for healing, closure, or clarification.

5. CODE OF CONDUCT (Summary)

All attendees agree to:

  • Seek explicit consent before any touch or sexual activity

  • Absolutely no exclusionary behavior, including racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, fatphobia, xenophobia, etc.

  • Our community has a diverse range of gender identities, please make an effort to honor each others pronouns

  • Respect all boundaries, including safewords and nonverbal cues

  • Refrain from gossiping about others’ activities or identities

  • Handle conflict or harm directly or through party hosts

  • Avoid play if overly intoxicated or using drugs that impair judgment

  • Speak up if something feels off, even if it’s awkward

  • Honor privacy and discretion — what happens at the party stays in the community

Violating these principles may result in a warning, pause from parties, or permanent removal, depending on severity.

While the hosts strive to maintain a safe, respectful, and accountable environment, you are ultimately responsible for your own safety, boundaries, and interactions. The hosts are not liable for the actions, choices, or behavior of other attendees.

By entering this space, you release the hosts, organizers, and venue from any and all liability relating to injuries, harm, or misconduct experienced during or after the event.